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Old 12-05-2017, 03:15 PM
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My grandmother said "move far enough away so you can't see the smoke from their fireplace" which turns out to be around 10 miles...

my moto is far enough that you have to stay in a hotel to visit


Very well stated. Have seen a few marriages crater because one or both parties involved still had the cord attached to mom or dad. Several hours away hopefully helps insure the cord is cut.
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Old 12-05-2017, 03:33 PM
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Lol. Fair. She’s out of my league, but I’m not dumb enough to ask without getting an idea of the answer first.
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Old 12-05-2017, 04:15 PM
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Congrats on the future engagement!

Everything has a chance of failing... It's what you do to avoid failure that makes the achievement that much better.

The "divorce goggles" you speak of are a real thing, but the advice given by those with a tainted outlook on marriage, should be taken in with as much clout as the advice given by those with the marital bliss goggles. In between those two extremes lies everyday reality.

From the day you say "I do", life is no longer about you. If that is a problem, than you are better off not being married. There shouldn't be a decision made or action taken without input from your wife and that courtesy should be reciprocated from her as well. When the two of you take a vow to act as an indivisible team who are going for the same goals, a lot can be accomplished. Conversely, when one deviates, an implosion is short to follow.

Good luck, I am sure there are a lot of great things ahead.


Dang, Sodar...That is some fundamental advice that was missing in my marriage.
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Old 12-05-2017, 04:26 PM
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So true. Nice write up Sodar.


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Congrats on the future engagement!

Everything has a chance of failing... It's what you do to avoid failure that makes the achievement that much better.

The "divorce goggles" you speak of are a real thing, but the advice given by those with a tainted outlook on marriage, should be taken in with as much clout as the advice given by those with the marital bliss goggles. In between those two extremes lies everyday reality.

From the day you say "I do", life is no longer about you. If that is a problem, than you are better off not being married. There shouldn't be a decision made or action taken without input from your wife and that courtesy should be reciprocated from her as well. When the two of you take a vow to act as an indivisible team who are going for the same goals, a lot can be accomplished. Conversely, when one deviates, an implosion is short to follow.

Good luck, I am sure there are a lot of great things ahead.
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Old 12-05-2017, 04:39 PM
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A few years later, the nympho is gone and the maniac is there...
Hilarious....
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Old 12-05-2017, 10:47 PM
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There is a lot more to life than money and belongings. I am 1000% not mentioning a pre-nup, because it has never once crossed my mind, from the first moment we met, that I would spend my life with anyone but her. Your bad marriage goggles are definitely showing, and not all women are Satan.
Nah, you don't need no stinkin' pre-nup. If she takes half your stuff and leaves you for some dude named Justin.....just marry Justin's ex wife and you'll get half of his stuff.
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Old 12-06-2017, 09:56 AM
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THE BEST MARRIAGE ADVICE EVER!!
Choose to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.
Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling and when possible, try to keep your phone off when you’re together with your spouse.
Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the “currency of relationships” so consistently invest time into your marriage.
Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage and remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.
Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy, and even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.
In every argument, remember that there won’t be a “winner” and a “loser.” You are partners in everything so you’ll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.
Remember that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It’s usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it!
Remember that marriage isn’t 50-50, divorce is 50-50. Marriage has to be 100-100. It’s not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they’ve got!
Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else.
Learn from other people, but don’t feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone else’s. God’s plan for your life is masterfully unique!
Don’t put your marriage on hold while you’re raising your kids or else you’ll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.
Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.
Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the foundation of a strong marriage.
When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”
When your husband/wife breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness instantly which will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to be rebuilt. You should be quick to say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”
Be patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important that your schedule.
Model the kind of marriage that will make your sons want to grow up to be good husbands and your daughters want to grow up to be good wives.
Learn from other people, but don’t feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone Else. God’s plan for your life is masterfully unique!
Never talk badly about your spouse to other people or vent about them online. Protect your spouse at all times and in all places.
Always wear your wedding ring. It will remind you that you’re always connected to your spouse and it will remind the rest of the world that you’re off limits!
Connect into a community of faith. A good church can make a world of difference in your marriage and family.
Pray together. Every marriage is stronger with God in the middle of it.
When you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, say nothing every time!
Never consider divorce as an option. Remember that a “perfect marriage” is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each .
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Old 12-06-2017, 10:14 AM
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^^^ Dang!! Great stuff there.....
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Old 12-06-2017, 10:15 AM
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We have lived together for 18 months or so, and it’s fantastic. Not sure if marriage is going to change things for us since we’re already an amazing team.

My brothers wedding was awesome. But I wouldn’t really want to do the traditional way. I’d like to have a small wedding on my parents land with the lake in the background.
I got married at Granbury in 1986 in a chalet just feet from the water. One hour before the wedding i was in the boat having a beer and coming to grips with my new life. Hours after the wedding, us and a few friends were back out in the boat celebrating. 32 years later we're still married and still boating, only now at PK. I'm a lucky guy
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Old 12-06-2017, 10:34 AM
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My dad always told me he has the last two words in any argument with my mother. No matter what the discussion is over or how heated it gets, it always ends when he says: "yes dear"
When the “Yes Dear’s” start at my house, conversation is over, we agree to disagree… Or sometimes we laugh it off.

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Incredible response, really really well written Sodar.
Agree – Sodar’s reply was perfect.

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Pre-nup, because nobody marries a b!tch.
Just kiddin, I married my wife 23 years ago and I would marry her again tomorrow.
Unfortunately, some of us did!

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I know the truth, but I keep it to myself. HA.
YUP!

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You best make darn sure you share equal thoughts on EVERYTHING prior to getting hitched. Kids, finances, religion, EVERYTHING.
AMEN to that… When I was married I thought we did, only to find out over a decade later every single one of those items you mention changed.

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May all your ups and downs be between the sheets!
^^LMAO Another great quote

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Let's not get the horse in front of the cart here, she hasn't said yes yet...

Marriage is easy, it's the parenting that makes it difficult.
LOL – holy mother of rejections… Parenting does make things tough, parenting after a split up makes it impossible in most cases.

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my moto is far enough that you have to stay in a hotel to visit
Mrs Slalomjunkie complains about the size of our guest rooms in the house, but there was a rhyme to my reason for making them smaller than she wanted – I don’t want any squatters! (Plus I don’t think 13.5x11 is small at all)

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don't sell yourself short
Ouch

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Hilarious....
Thank you haha

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Nah, you don't need no stinkin' pre-nup. If she takes half your stuff and leaves you for some dude named Justin.....just marry Justin's ex wife and you'll get half of his stuff.
^^El Sancho is a real person.
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