I'd keep looking at other vehicles. If you looked at a Honda, go look at their competitors... Toyota and Nissan. 4Runners, Sequoias, Armada, Pathfinder... I think all of these have options with 3rd row seats, and V8's.
I used to sell Honda's 5 years ago. The pilot is a great vehicle, but like almost all other Honda's, its entirely underpowered. Given JBrew's explorer experience, I wouldn't want to touch that explorer for towing purposes.