I chickened out and asked her if she preferred being surprised, she absolutely does not!! So I talked her through what I was thinking. I did get her to same "Hmmm" in a positive "that sounds nice" kind of way but it was promptly interrupted with "no" I want this (showing me Disneyland on her computer).
so thats that... I'm taking her and the kids to Disneyland for her 40th.
Did Disneyland with the kids even cross your mind? yeah mine neither.