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mitch
10-27-2005, 01:40 PM
Folks, Looking for your thoughts on a curfew for a 16 y/o girl, weekday/weekend. She's an A/B student, has her own car, Varsity cheerleader, softball, never been in any trouble. Turned 16 in May and spends most of her free time at her boyfriends house :eek: Thanks for any feedback!!

east tx skier
10-27-2005, 01:43 PM
4:30 pm, but only if you are her armed escort at all times. 8p

But seriously, really tough call. I'll leave it to some of the guys who have daughters. Good luck.

bcampbe7
10-27-2005, 01:45 PM
Folks, Looking for your thoughts on a curfew for a 16 y/o girl, weekday/weekend. She's an A/B student, has her own car, Varsity cheerleader, softball, never been in any trouble. Turned 16 in May and spends most of her free time at her boyfriends house :eek: Thanks for any feedback!!

9pm on weekday/school nights. 11pm on Friday and Saturday night.
If she is spending time at her boyfriends house I would hope his parents are home.

DISCLAIMER:
I do not have kids, but if I did, this is what I think I would implement.

River Rat
10-27-2005, 01:48 PM
9:00 w/d and 12:00 on the weekends, That is what I give my 17 year old, and I might add that she don't think it's fair! oh well :noface:

RickDV
10-27-2005, 01:48 PM
Folks, Looking for your thoughts on a curfew for a 16 y/o girl, weekday/weekend. She's an A/B student, has her own car, Varsity cheerleader, softball, never been in any trouble. Turned 16 in May and spends most of her free time at her boyfriends house :eek: Thanks for any feedback!!

I think when our daughter was that age (she's 20 now) it was 10pm on school nights and midnight on weekends. Cell phone was a must and we required her to tell us where she was going and with whom...and if adults would be present. She's a responsible girl and we didn't have any problems.

jmyers
10-27-2005, 01:48 PM
I don't have a daughter, but at 16 I would say weeknights 10:00 during school, and 12:00 on weekends! She will have plenty of time to stay out late in the coming years, and she will push those limits too!! My step sister is 16 and she push's those limits all the time!! She is also an A/B student with similiar interests. Hope that helps!! :twocents:

Cary K.
10-27-2005, 02:05 PM
I think the 10/12 times seem fair. You could start at 9/11 and when she says thats not fair, you could bargain her to 10/12 and she will feel like she has won a battle :) IMO, there are very few times that a 16 yo needs to be involved with anything going on past midnight.

This bring backs lots of good and not-so-good memories. I'm sure I am not the only one that could get into plenty of trouble and still be home on time.

bigmac
10-27-2005, 02:09 PM
I think when our daughter was that age (she's 20 now) it was 10pm on school nights and midnight on weekends. Cell phone was a must and we required her to tell us where she was going and with whom...and if adults would be present. She's a responsible girl and we didn't have any problems.

Exactly our approach when my daughter was a teen. 10PM weekdays, midnight on weekends. We posed the same questions as to who, what, where and why. We provided the cellphone and expected a call if, for ANY reason, she would be even a little late. And she'd better have a great reason ready.

bcampbe7
10-27-2005, 02:14 PM
This bring backs lots of good and not-so-good memories. I'm sure I am not the only one that could get into plenty of trouble and still be home on time.

I met my Dad on the road around 4am! He was coming to find me. :eek:
Didn't do that again!

RickDV
10-27-2005, 02:15 PM
Another suggestion is to check with her friends' parents. There is a lot of peer pressure at that age to not be different than your friends. If she and her friends have the same curfew it helps. Talk to the parents directly so you know you're getting the straight scoop.

Another thing we did was to make our home as attractive for the kids to hang out as we could. We have a rec room in the basement with pool table, TV, stereo, phone, and weight equipment (for my son.) We figure we would rather have the crowd at our house and feed them than to have them somewhere else.

ski_king
10-27-2005, 02:16 PM
I think when our daughter was that age (she's 20 now) it was 10pm on school nights and midnight on weekends. Cell phone was a must and we required her to tell us where she was going and with whom...and if adults would be present. She's a responsible girl and we didn't have any problems.
I got my daughter a phone with camera and trick her into sending me photos, that way I can see where she is really at. I just hope she dosn't catch on and start to save pictures of grandma's house to send to me when needed.

Leroy
10-27-2005, 02:25 PM
I would also recommend a strong mom/dad/parent network. Talk. I know it has saved several kids at our high school from doing something stupid this year. Just last week one of the soccer mom's found out about a party at someone's house who they knew were out of town. Several mom's went over and pulled several soccer players out before anything bad could happen.

Ryan
10-27-2005, 02:29 PM
I got my daughter a phone with camera and trick her into sending me photos, that way I can see where she is really at. I just hope she dosn't catch on and start to save pictures of grandma's house to send to me when needed.

Nice!

My daughter is only 8 months old and I have already been thinking about this subject. Who knows what phones will do when she is 16. I am sure she will refer to this as "planning to ruin her life since she was born."

Flatwaterfooter
10-27-2005, 02:49 PM
I got my daughter a phone with camera and trick her into sending me photos, that way I can see where she is really at. I just hope she dosn't catch on and start to save pictures of grandma's house to send to me when needed.


How do you trick her to send you photos?

This issue is why I had three boys

3event
10-27-2005, 02:50 PM
Our kids are still a few years from this but it still gets some thought....

One suggestion I have is DO NOT bargain the curfew or other boundaries. Do all you research with friends parents, and decide what you have to do. Have the discussion but don't make it negotiable. My take is that it's your decision for their welfare and you don't want to get into having to negotiate rules of the house. Perhaps leave a carrot out there and say that if you get 100% compliance for the next semester she might get an hour added on.

You may not always make the "perfect" decision, but you are always doing it because you are taking care of them so just do it !

BeavenX5
10-27-2005, 02:56 PM
I still have a few years ahead of me before I get there as my daughter is "only" 10 now. I will eventually get her one of those new cell phone with integrated locators (similar to GPS but using cellular towers) to help us make sure she is where she says she is.
As a parent, you can go on the phone provider web site and track the position of the phone at all time. I think in this case the benefits of this service for the parents is worth the many downsides of it.

Just my :twocents:

whitedog
10-27-2005, 03:02 PM
I still have a few years ahead of me before I get there as my daughter is "only" 10 now. I will eventually get her one of those new cell phone with integrated locators (similar to GPS but using cellular towers) to help us make sure she is where she says she is.
As a parent, you can go on the phone provider web site and track the position of the phone at all time. I think in this case the benefits of this service for the parents is worth the many downsides of it.



My daughter is 13 now and I use the cell phone locator, her's is actually GPS and it transmitts coordinates to the nearest tower. She does not know it has that option yet, lets keep it a secret. ;) Curfew 9:30 pm on week nights 11 on Fri and Sat only if at a friends house or a school function. Otherwise its 9:30 every night. We insist on knowing where she is and who she is with. Living in a town of 400 does make it easier for us parents to know who is doing what, word travels fast.

RickDV
10-27-2005, 03:11 PM
I still have a few years ahead of me before I get there as my daughter is "only" 10 now. I will eventually get her one of those new cell phone with integrated locators (similar to GPS but using cellular towers) to help us make sure she is where she says she is.
As a parent, you can go on the phone provider web site and track the position of the phone at all time. I think in this case the benefits of this service for the parents is worth the many downsides of it.

Just my :twocents:

If you need to go covert with tracking your kids you can add GPS tracking to their cell phone and then go on-line to get a live update (or a 30-day history) of where they are. Check out one service at accutracking.com (http://www.accutracking.com/).

This service is also helpful if you have a parent with developing alzheimer's so you can track them down if they become lost.

Danimal
10-27-2005, 03:14 PM
First, find out what the curfew for kids is in your town. Most communities have them. I did this with my 16 year old son. The curfew by me 10/12. When they complain... tell them that it's the law. Another thing I do to promote him being home on time is for every minute he is late, I knock 10 minutes off his curfew for the next time. It's amazing to see him come through the door 5 minutes early.

PendO
10-27-2005, 03:39 PM
My parents never waited up for me ... but I do remember coming home early in the AM with the waiting up for my sister to come home ... my daughter is 2 1/2 ... but if it is a school night I would say 7:00 and on a weekend it would be variable depending upon what she is planning to do ... depends on how much you trust her boyfriends parents and the boyfriend!

Another suggestion is to check with her friends' parents. There is a lot of peer pressure at that age to not be different than your friends. If she and her friends have the same curfew it helps. Talk to the parents directly so you know you're getting the straight scoop.

Another thing we did was to make our home as attractive for the kids to hang out as we could. We have a rec room in the basement with pool table, TV, stereo, phone, and weight equipment (for my son.) We figure we would rather have the crowd at our house and feed them than to have them somewhere else.

bradamerry
10-27-2005, 03:47 PM
Unless it is a school or church function on the weekdays, after school. For the weekends 10:30pm. Nothing good happens after 10:30 on a Friday or Saturday night in a father's eye. I know what I was doing on weekends after 10pm. :rolleyes: But I'm a hard A$$... :D

mitch
10-27-2005, 03:49 PM
Thanks for the F/B you guys rock

4:30PM, 7PM :uglyhamme , there's some gems in this thread :)

milkmania
10-27-2005, 03:54 PM
I met my Dad on the road around 4am! He was coming to find me. :eek:
Didn't do that again!

hehe....got ya there.....coming in, I'd meet my mom at the door on her way out for work..... sometimeshttp://deephousepage.com/smilies/bubble.gif



other times, I'd get home after she had already lefthttp://deephousepage.com/smilies/smokin.gif

milkmania
10-27-2005, 03:58 PM
but, now that I have a daughter.....

two words
GPS & Vehicle Tracking Device


okay, more than twohttp://deephousepage.com/smilies/bricks1.gif

X2M
10-27-2005, 03:58 PM
No reason for them to be out later than 8 o'clock on a school night. Church and school functions would be over before then. Besides teenager girls need lots of sleep and if they are out past that they are missing out on their beauty sleep. ;) Weekends are different, start with an earlier time and work later. Gotta earn that trust.

I really like that GPS phone thing!! I know what Santa's bringing my soon to be Jr.Higher for Christmas.
:)

bcampbe7
10-27-2005, 04:02 PM
What are you all using for the GPS tracking service and what phone do you have?

milkmania
10-27-2005, 04:24 PM
What are you all using for the GPS tracking service and what phone do you have?


that wasn't fair!!!
you closed a threadjack after you asked a question:uglyhamme

now I gotta go and reopen it
[threadjack]
here's an interesting site:
http://teenagerstoday.com/resources/articles/teentracking.htm

close the jack, when you're done:D

X2M
10-27-2005, 04:31 PM
Along the same lines as the previous treadjack...

I have thought about getting one of those FireFly phones when my daughter goes into Jr.High. You add "approved" numbers into the phone. The phone will then only dial or accept calls from those set numbers. That would really cut down on airtime usage if she could only call me. ;) I wonder if those are GPS tracking capable?

Do I have to close it too? :purplaugh

zberger
10-27-2005, 04:31 PM
I had a curfew of midnight up until the day i turned 18, after that I didn't have one. Granted I am pretty resonsible, and never did anything stupid.. and generally was home around 1 anyways no matter what.

My sister on the other hand had one until she was like 20, lol.

They had no time to trust her at all. She just didn't pick the best of friends.. while my friends were people I had known forever.

btmag
10-27-2005, 06:01 PM
If you need to go covert with tracking your kids you can add GPS tracking to their cell phone and then go on-line to get a live update (or a 30-day history) of where they are. Check out one service at accutracking.com (http://www.accutracking.com/).

This service is also helpful if you have a parent with developing alzheimer's so you can track them down if they become lost.


I love this idea. Mine will be 16 in 6 months. :eek:

MasterCrafting
10-27-2005, 06:25 PM
Curfew is so lame...dont even get me started...let her stay out all night!

haha....(i'm 17) :uglyhamme

east tx skier
10-27-2005, 06:27 PM
Rock on MCing! 8p

Bobby
10-27-2005, 07:01 PM
I never had a curfew in high school. It probably helps that Im an above average sized guy and never had the need to find trouble. The girls I knew in high school, for the most part, had midnight curfews. Some had later like 12:30 or 1, but midnight seemed to be the norm.

watergirl
10-27-2005, 07:03 PM
SHe is only young once.

Bobby
10-27-2005, 07:08 PM
Well, let me change that - i remember hanging out with my friends and girls were there well into the night (2-3ish), as long as they told their parents what they were doing and who with.

jmyers
10-27-2005, 07:20 PM
SHe is only young once.
Wow see what brings Watergirl out!!! :wavey:

mitch
10-27-2005, 07:20 PM
Right now she's 10PM/12:30AM, pretty generous I think, but I was just wondering what everyone else thought. She's never been in trouble (skis better than me), and her boyfriend is pretty nice (I still know what he's thinking, but he seems to be a decent guy). Same boyfriend for 1 year now :( She paid for he own car and has a very good attitude, so I really can't complain. Thanks all, great thread! :cool:

jmyers
10-27-2005, 07:27 PM
Right now she's 10PM/12:30AM, pretty generous I think, but I was just wondering what everyone else thought. She's never been in trouble (skis better than me), and her boyfriend is pretty nice (I still know what he's thinking, but he seems to be a decent guy). Same boyfriend for 1 year now :( She paid for he own car and has a very good attitude, so I really can't complain. Thanks all, great thread! :cool:
Those times sound just fine, and if she sticks by them I think your doing ok!! Any later she might want to do this :toast:which could lead to :steering: stick to your guns!

mitch
10-27-2005, 07:40 PM
Those times sound just fine, and if she sticks by them I think your doing ok!! Any later she might want to do this :toast:which could lead to :steering: stick to your guns!



Funny!! :uglyhamme

milkmania
10-27-2005, 08:21 PM
...........proper way to threadjack.......

[threadjack]
I still love the scene in Bad Boys II where Marcus Burnett, Mike Lowery & Reggie are at the door:D
I was going to quote the scene from IMDB.com, but way too much unsuitable languagehttp://deephousepage.com/smilies/spank2.gif


[/end threadjack];)

watergirl
10-27-2005, 09:33 PM
Wow see what brings Watergirl out!!! :wavey:
That's not all that brings me out big boy! :rolleyes: I've been in Paris for awhile.

Farmer Ted
10-27-2005, 09:54 PM
Invite the youngman in for a chat and explain to him the importance that should he make your little girl cry, you have no choice but to make him cry twice as hard

tell him that if he tries to get into your daughters pants you'll kill him

tell him you know that all he's after is in your daughters pants and remind him that if he succeeds, you'll kill him

stress the importance of the fact that if he pisses you off, you'll kill him

it might help if you develop a tick or a twitch while you're explaining how you'll kill him

MasterCrafting
10-28-2005, 12:38 AM
Invite the youngman in for a chat and explain to him the importance that should he make your little girl cry, you have no choice but to make him cry twice as hard

tell him that if he tries to get into your daughters pants you'll kill him

tell him you know that all he's after is in your daughters pants and remind him that if he succeeds, you'll kill him

stress the importance of the fact that if he pisses you off, you'll kill him

it might help if you develop a tick or a twitch while you're explaining how you'll kill him

Wow...those are the dads that scare the piss outta me...even if they dont say anything...you can tell what dads are like that, and the ones that arnt...oh man...i'm getting scared just thinking about that...I'd recomend not doing that...um... :shocked: :eek:

erkoehler
10-28-2005, 12:43 AM
I can happily say, that I never had a curfew, but I knew when to be home and not push my luck. All it took was a 10second phone call to keep the parents happy, and meet out till whenever.

I found, that not having a curfew, and not needing to be home at a certain time actually made me come home earlier. Not sure why, but I never remember being out past 12 or 1. I guess in H.S. I just liked to sleep :D

PendO
10-28-2005, 01:44 AM
Back in high school we had one guy friend who had a curfew ... it was pretty funny actually, we would just drop his *** off at home at 9:00 on the weekends and then go mess around ... dry ice in the summer, or on those cold cold nights we would get a spray bottle of water and go find friends cars and spray a fine mist of water on the windshiled and in the lock cylinders ... it was only good if the temp was in the teens or lower but it would freeze instantly... so long as there are boys without curfews there will always be girls who need a curfew:)

BriEOD
10-28-2005, 07:52 AM
Invite the youngman in for a chat and explain to him the importance that should he make your little girl cry, you have no choice but to make him cry twice as hard

tell him that if he tries to get into your daughters pants you'll kill him

tell him you know that all he's after is in your daughters pants and remind him that if he succeeds, you'll kill him

stress the importance of the fact that if he pisses you off, you'll kill him

it might help if you develop a tick or a twitch while you're explaining how you'll kill him

The movie Bad Boys comes to mind, when that kid comes to pick up Martin Lawrence's daughter and he and Will Smith go off on him with the pistol.

stumbledog
10-28-2005, 08:23 AM
My Daughter will be 15 in September (also have 2 and 4 yr old daughters), so I have alot to worry about. We have been fortunate that Katie is involved in Basketball, Volleyball, and Softball. She is busy almost every day, after school, with sports. On the weekends we only need to know what, where, when, and with whom. Any deviations from original evening plans are to be communicated via the cell phone we give her (still no personal cell phone.......even though "all my friends have them").

As far as curfew goes: IMO there is no need to be out after 9pm, during the week, unless there is an organized function involved. On the Weekend, I think Midnight is more than ample time.

bradamerry
10-28-2005, 08:38 AM
Invite the youngman in for a chat and explain to him the importance that should he make your little girl cry, you have no choice but to make him cry twice as hard

tell him that if he tries to get into your daughters pants you'll kill him

tell him you know that all he's after is in your daughters pants and remind him that if he succeeds, you'll kill him

stress the importance of the fact that if he pisses you off, you'll kill him

it might help if you develop a tick or a twitch while you're explaining how you'll kill him
Farmer and I will get to try this out in a few yrs. I have some good ideas. I want to try and make one of them piss himself. :uglyhamme

Farmer Ted
10-28-2005, 09:15 AM
Farmer and I will get to try this out in a few yrs. I have some good ideas. I want to try and make one of them piss himself. :uglyhamme


We'll fine tune it on Jen and Haley, then it will be perfect for Kaylee!

parks_jr_55
10-28-2005, 09:15 AM
.........................

milkmania
10-28-2005, 10:52 AM
just invite him in for "The Talk" while you've got your gun collection out and cleaning it.http://deephousepage.com/smilies/mwink.gif


you can add the ticks & twitches for added effecthttp://deephousepage.com/smilies/jo1.gif

M-Funf
10-28-2005, 01:48 PM
I remember the father of a close friend of mine. When she started getting interested in boys, mom and dad insisted that she bring the boys in to meet dad before they went anywhere. Dad was 6'-9", 320, with a big scar on his cheek. He looked mean as Sh**. Mom would do the talking to the boy, explaining how she wanted her home by 10, no alcohol, no funny stuff. Dad would stand behind her with his arms crossed just staring straight into the poor kids eyes...

Dad is actually one of the nicest guys around, but none of her boys saw that...all they saw was a cold hearted killer just waiting for them to give him a reason to strike...

M-Funf
10-28-2005, 01:52 PM
On another note, I think it's important that you have a good understanding about expectations.

My neighbor has two teenage daughters (divorced mom). They are 14 and 16. I have never seen them with girl friends, but they have a posse of boys they run around with. When mom leaves the house, it's about 5 minutes before they start showing up. Then, they leave about 10 minutes before mom gets home...They wear what all the girls around here wear...pajama bottoms with slippers or flip-flops and a tight tank top :noface:

I've heard those boys leaving the house as late as 3AM some nights (school nights, mind you).

ski_king
10-28-2005, 01:58 PM
I give them an Application for Permission to Date My Daughter (http://www.freemaninstitute.com/dateapp.htm).

I may have posted this before.

milkmania
10-28-2005, 06:34 PM
On another note, I think it's important that you have a good understanding about expectations.

My neighbor has two teenage daughters (divorced mom). They are 14 and 16. I have never seen them with girl friends, but they have a posse of boys they run around with. When mom leaves the house, it's about 5 minutes before they start showing up. Then, they leave about 10 minutes before mom gets home...They wear what all the girls around here wear...pajama bottoms with slippers or flip-flops and a tight tank top :noface:

I've heard those boys leaving the house as late as 3AM some nights (school nights, mind you).

I can relate to just about all of that......

but THAT'S just wrong!

lakes Rick
10-28-2005, 10:26 PM
I think 9 pm on weeknights is plenty late enough.. 10PM MAYBE during summer... Homework and a good nights rest is pretty important..

Yes to the boyfriends parents being home... "Friendliest" women I remember at that age were the "nondrinking" Mormon girls we met at the mormon dances.. So even the best girls have "normal" tendencies.

As to scaring the boys about "getting in there daughters pants", most girls I see nowadays pants are about to fall off on there own.. AND I think the GIRLS are now the more forward ones.. QUIT blaming the boys for it all..

And from a father with two sons, their comments every fall of "fresh meat", as the new freshmen girls came to school I still remember. ( they are 21 and 24 now).... It aint easy out there......

SKI*MC
10-28-2005, 10:37 PM
I give them an Application for Permission to Date My Daughter (http://www.freemaninstitute.com/dateapp.htm).

I may have posted this before.



is that a joke or serious. If it is... haha!!! :uglyhamme

ski_king
10-28-2005, 10:45 PM
is that a joke or serious. If it is... haha!!! :uglyhamme
When you are older and have a teenage daughter, you will understand.

SKI*MC
10-28-2005, 10:51 PM
i guess so

betsy&david Harrison
10-28-2005, 11:55 PM
I think 9 pm on weeknights is plenty late enough.. 10PM MAYBE during summer... Homework and a good nights rest is pretty important..

Yes to the boyfriends parents being home... "Friendliest" women I remember at that age were the "nondrinking" Mormon girls we met at the mormon dances.. So even the best girls have "normal" tendencies.

As to scaring the boys about "getting in there daughters pants", most girls I see nowadays pants are about to fall off on there own.. AND I think the GIRLS are now the more forward ones.. QUIT blaming the boys for it all..

And from a father with two sons, their comments every fall of "fresh meat", as the new freshmen girls came to school I still remember. ( they are 21 and 24 now).... It aint easy out there......
Since I work with these young'stas....daily...and hear their lovely tales, lock them in early...9pm is good. Remember your high school days and the girls that would "put out?" Do you want your daughter to have that reputation? B

SKI*MC
10-29-2005, 12:11 AM
you have to have faith that your child will make the right choices. Has she ever let you down in the past, ever make you sincerly dissapointed? If not, give her the benefit of the doubt and give her the trust that she wants.

betsy&david Harrison
10-29-2005, 12:16 AM
you have to have faith that your child will make the right choices. Has she ever let you down in the past, ever make you sincerly dissapointed? If not, give her the benefit of the doubt and give her the trust that she wants.
I've seen that scenario and it works at 17. Amazing what a year of maturity will do for a girl. Speaking from that point of view... B

RickDV
10-29-2005, 12:27 AM
you have to have faith that your child will make the right choices. Has she ever let you down in the past, ever make you sincerly dissapointed? If not, give her the benefit of the doubt and give her the trust that she wants.

I agree that this is a good approach. We learned with our kids that during the teenage years there is a continual building of trust and responsibility. As they demonstrate that they can act responsibly you can trust them with more. They may back slide occassionally and adjustments may have to be made, but this approach seems to be working well for us.

BTW - We did notice that the fastest growing part of a teenager's body is his/her mouth! :D

SKI*MC
10-29-2005, 12:29 AM
BTW - We did notice that the fastest growing part of a teenager's body is his/her mouth! :D[/QUOTE]


I can second that! I always seem to make someone else mad everyday. :rolleyes:

milkmania
10-29-2005, 12:37 AM
Remember your high school days and the girls that would "put out?" Do you want your daughter to have that reputation? B

I can't totally agree with that........
my wife and I got married fresh out of high school, she was about 3 months pregnant, & never been kissed till I came along:D

21 years ago

Leroy
10-29-2005, 01:29 AM
Good one Ski_king! I have similar one already for my 10 year old daughter also.

I give them an Application for Permission to Date My Daughter (http://www.freemaninstitute.com/dateapp.htm).

I may have posted this before.

SKI*MC
10-29-2005, 01:36 AM
haha! thats a funny one. I am still waitng for the day when a father gives that to me, and i smile and give him that look like, "are you serious?" And he will look back at me like, "why are you smiling, get writing." That is the exact situation i am waitng for, i think it might happen to.

6ballsisall
10-29-2005, 10:31 AM
My daughter is 14 weeks old. I start interviewing private investigators and ex CIA hitmen in a few years.

betsy&david Harrison
10-29-2005, 11:14 AM
I can't totally agree with that........
my wife and I got married fresh out of high school, she was about 3 months pregnant, & never been kissed till I came along:D

21 years ago
Congrats to the two of you! That is a rare happening these days. Now, look at the BIG picture....how often does that really happen? Divorce rate...up over 50% now, older men scamming on younger girls, I have to deal with the Hells Angels in my area with all their herpes and scamming on the young high school girls. Guess it depends a lot on where you live doesn't it? B

betsy&david Harrison
10-29-2005, 11:21 AM
I give them an Application for Permission to Date My Daughter (http://www.freemaninstitute.com/dateapp.htm).

I may have posted this before.
I love this! Just printed it out...have to save it for 11 years but I don't care. I'm sending it on to my friends with young girls in their homes too. Very well done. B

jimmer2880
10-29-2005, 03:27 PM
I can't totally agree with that........
my wife and I got married fresh out of high school, she was about 3 months pregnant, & never been kissed till I came along:D

21 years ago

ummm.... 3 months pregnant, but never been kissed. :shocked: .... I'd better not say anything else.

whitedog
11-03-2005, 06:14 PM
I give them an Application for Permission to Date My Daughter (http://www.freemaninstitute.com/dateapp.htm).

I may have posted this before.

This goes along with the above application after they are aproved.

Rules for dating my daughter.

http://www.wilk4.com/humor/humorm119.htm

betsy&david Harrison
11-06-2005, 01:09 AM
Folks, Looking for your thoughts on a curfew for a 16 y/o girl, weekday/weekend. She's an A/B student, has her own car, Varsity cheerleader, softball, never been in any trouble. Turned 16 in May and spends most of her free time at her boyfriends house :eek: Thanks for any feedback!!
So Mitch, what did you decide? B

maristarman
11-06-2005, 02:28 AM
you have to have faith that your child will make the right choices. Has she ever let you down in the past, ever make you sincerly dissapointed? If not, give her the benefit of the doubt and give her the trust that she wants.

That sounds really sweet, but I'm not sure its entirely true. If a child has never had a lot of freedom, they really haven't been in a situation where they could make you "sincerely disappointed". And a 16 year old girls sincerely disappointed could make you a very young Grandma or Grandpa.

Why put a 16 year old in a position where they could make some serious mistakes?

I've got two 15 year old girls, and I think 9 and 11 are very reasonable times. We always know where they are. Usually at a church event or at a friends. Never cruising the mall dressed like a two dollar you know what.

Leroy
01-21-2007, 11:37 PM
With 18, 16 boys and 11 girl I'm also curious what you decided. I'm very lax, but generally 1AM for the 18 yr old but getting harder to enforce.

Chief
01-21-2007, 11:49 PM
Folks, Looking for your thoughts on a curfew for a 16 y/o girl, weekday/weekend. She's an A/B student, has her own car, Varsity cheerleader, softball, never been in any trouble. Turned 16 in May and spends most of her free time at her boyfriends house :eek: Thanks for any feedback!!

At 16 they are who they are. You can only hope the tools you gave them to work with are being used. I have a 13 year old that thinks dad is the greatest thing on earth when buying Ipods, cameras, computer and phones and the biggest ***** when wielding out justice (taking those things) and grounding.

If she is good in school and responsible eleven or twelve may be a good time, but wield the justice if she is late and she will ensure she is home on time.

trickskier
01-22-2007, 12:05 PM
Florida law is 11PM for anyone 16 & younger unless going to or from work.

Maristar210
01-22-2007, 12:13 PM
Florida law is 11PM for anyone 16 & younger unless going to or from work.

Yeah but Trick that's because of all the drug mules isn't it? I-95?

and if I am being paid to be a drug mule then TECHINICALLY I am working right?:D :D

trickskier
01-22-2007, 12:15 PM
Yeah but Trick that's because of all the drug mules isn't it? I-95?

and if I am being paid to be a drug mule then TECHINICALLY I am working right?:D :D
There's TONS of drugs that move up I-95 daily......