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jstewart319
11-08-2012, 09:49 AM
Thought I would share my story with everyone. Feel free to comment or share your stories, as my wife and I are new to both adoption and parenting.

My wife and I quite possibly could be the only people to adopt vie facebook.

Back in late November 2011, my wife gets a message from her cousin asking us how we felt about adoption. My wife and her cousin are not close and only starting talking to each other vie facebook. My wife messages her back and asks her why. Well one of her daughters is pregnant, due in late March, with her third child. Her other two kids are 5 and 20 months, she is a single parent that does not work and the father, same to all three, does not work as well. Both of them are in their early twenties. My wifeís cousin says she is going to give the baby up for adoption, and they are looking towards family for help first.

My wife and her cousin start talking on the phone and we agreed to look in to the process and see what all is evolved. After talking about it we decide to move forward, by now itís mid December and the baby is due in March so we have about 3 months to prepare to include home inspection all the baby stuff we are going to need. Somehow we managed to get everything we need to get done done, thanks to some great friends and family support.
March comes and her doctor says she is right on schedule for her due date of March 27 but my wife and I want to make sure we are there for the birth, which was in Wisconsin, so we head up a week early. We get there on the 18, got an apartment thanks to the cousin, we take the birth mother to her weekly checkup on the 19, and everything looks on schedule. So my wife and are thinking we got a week to spend with each other before our world changes, well we thought we had a week. We get a call first think the next morning that she was checking in to the hospital, three hours later we had a baby boy.

Bare with me my story is almost over.

Once we were cleared we headed home, yes we drove all the way from Wisconsin to Virginia nonstop 18 hours with a newborn, and he did great.

James is now seven months old heís 23lbs 9oz and 26in and doing great. It has been one heck of a year and we look forward to many more to come. We have yet to finalize in Virginia since he had to be 6 months old before we could apply but itís almost done and canít wait until it is.

Thank you for reading my long story.

CBRENT
11-08-2012, 10:17 AM
From one father to another... Congrats, the best days of your life are about to begin! They grow up so fast, so enjoy all the little things! I wish you and your "new" family all the best!

Good looking Vizsla also, mine is 3, best dog ever owned.

milkmania
11-08-2012, 10:40 AM
Thought I would share my story with everyone. Feel free to comment or share your stories, as my wife and I are new to both adoption and parenting.

My wife and I quite possibly could be the only people to adopt vie facebook.

Back in late November 2011, my wife gets a message from her cousin asking us how we felt about adoption. My wife and her cousin are not close and only starting talking to each other vie facebook. My wife messages her back and asks her why. Well one of her daughters is pregnant, due in late March, with her third child. Her other two kids are 5 and 20 months, she is a single parent that does not work and the father, same to all three, does not work as well. Both of them are in their early twenties. My wifeís cousin says she is going to give the baby up for adoption, and they are looking towards family for help first.

My wife and her cousin start talking on the phone and we agreed to look in to the process and see what all is evolved. After talking about it we decide to move forward, by now itís mid December and the baby is due in March so we have about 3 months to prepare to include home inspection all the baby stuff we are going to need. Somehow we managed to get everything we need to get done done, thanks to some great friends and family support.
March comes and her doctor says she is right on schedule for her due date of March 27 but my wife and I want to make sure we are there for the birth, which was in Wisconsin, so we head up a week early. We get there on the 18, got an apartment thanks to the cousin, we take the birth mother to her weekly checkup on the 19, and everything looks on schedule. So my wife and are thinking we got a week to spend with each other before our world changes, well we thought we had a week. We get a call first think the next morning that she was checking in to the hospital, three hours later we had a baby boy.

Bare with me my story is almost over.

Once we were cleared we headed home, yes we drove all the way from Wisconsin to Virginia nonstop 18 hours with a newborn, and he did great.

James is now seven months old heís 23lbs 9oz and 26in and doing great. It has been one heck of a year and we look forward to many more to come. We have yet to finalize in Virginia since he had to be 6 months old before we could apply but itís almost done and canít wait until it is.

Thank you for reading my long story.

Great story!
But, I ask one thing...... "Would you do it all over again tomorrow?"

If the answer is yes, you're doing a great thing.
If your answer is no, well then perhaps you have reservations and make the best out of it that you can.

I try to apply that question to most everything I do in life, it's worked out pretty good so far... I'm content where I am, so you should be too :) I have less than I've ever had in my life, but I'm the happiest I've been in years.

Good luck with everything and James has a great start at life and a first birthday coming up really soon.

LYNRDSKYNRD
11-08-2012, 10:44 AM
Congrats! As mentioned...soak it all in, take tons of pics and videos, because they grow so fast.

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jstewart319
11-08-2012, 10:57 AM
From one father to another... Congrats, the best days of your life are about to begin! They grow up so fast, so enjoy all the little things! I wish you and your "new" family all the best!

Good looking Vizsla also, mine is 3, best dog ever owned.

Thanks and Nala is a Rhodesian Ridgeback but they do look alike.

jstewart319
11-08-2012, 10:59 AM
Great story!
But, I ask one thing...... "Would you do it all over again tomorrow?"

If the answer is yes, you're doing a great thing.
If your answer is no, well then perhaps you have reservations and make the best out of it that you can.

I try to apply that question to most everything I do in life, it's worked out pretty good so far... I'm content where I am, so you should be too :) I have less than I've ever had in my life, but I'm the happiest I've been in years.

Good luck with everything and James has a great start at life and a first birthday coming up really soon.

Would I do all over again? YES I can not imagine my life witout him.

CBRENT
11-08-2012, 11:03 AM
Thanks and Nala is a Rhodesian Ridgeback but they do look alike.

Nala, cool name. They do look alike, should have notice the tail not being docked.

mzimme
11-08-2012, 11:10 AM
Great story...

I have an adopted sister, although the process was a little different for us when we went through it. She's 17 now, and she came to the US from S. Korea at 4 months old. I still remember that day clear as day with very vivid details. It's been a great experience.

Do you plan to tell him he was adopted when he gets to the age where he'd understand that? My sister looked different (not caucasion) so it was never a topic we shyed away from. There are definitely psychological hurdles with adoption that you'll need to be ready for when the time comes. My sister is very concerned with "saving" people. She tries to find the worst human beings on the planet to date at this point in her life, and the shrinks have all said it has something to do with how she was "saved" as a child and has it in her head that she needs to do the same.

Congrats on everything, it takes a strong person to accept responsibility for a life when you had no "plans" for having a baby in the first place. Kudos to you.

GoneBoatN
11-08-2012, 11:42 AM
Congrats on becoming a parent. That single day changes the rest of your life - for the better. Being a parent is one of the hardest things to do in life and at the same time the most rewarding.

2RLAKE
11-08-2012, 12:19 PM
Congrats on being a dad ... At the end of the day it really doesn't matter what your accomplish at work it's all about do as a parent .... Our job is to develop them to be responsible adults .... Then you can be friends with them

gweaver
11-08-2012, 12:35 PM
Congratulations. That boy, I'm sure, will have a wonderful life with his new family.
He'll be the best, most important, most stressful, most rewarding thing in your life. He'll make you cry, he'll make you scream, he'll make you pull your hair out, and at the end of the day, when you see him sleeping in his bed, the only thing you'll want to do is hold him close, hug him and keep him safe.
It's the best feeling ever!! Wouldn't trade it for a thing.
Congratulations again!
Greg

Thrall
11-08-2012, 01:29 PM
Congrats, beautiful kid too. Be content in the fact that he will have a better life as your child than he would have.

milkmania
11-08-2012, 02:19 PM
Would I do all over again? YES I can not imagine my life witout him.
Then all is right and nothing else matters:)

milkmania
11-08-2012, 02:26 PM
in 1984, I was headed down the road to hell.... If you'd have told me I was going to be a dad, I'd have told you that you're full of ****. Furthest thing from my mind.
Now, I wouldn't have it any other way.... it gives you a a sense of life and what it's really all about.
Although my relationship with the oldest son is very strained, due to this divorce... we still know how to contact each other, we just choose not to.

Rockman
11-08-2012, 02:42 PM
Awesome story! Glad everything worked out! Congratulations!

CantRepeat
11-08-2012, 04:28 PM
Are mom and son at odds in the NFL support group? lol

1redTA
11-08-2012, 05:29 PM
being a father has changed me more than anything in my life, to know I have a family to provide for has given me a sense of purpose. I feel the need to give to them everything of myself.

As mentioned some minutes you love them and others you want to pull your hair out. Patience is a virtue sometimes it's best to count to ten, one hundred or walk outside.

Good luck:-)

76S&S
11-08-2012, 05:29 PM
Thanks for sharing your story, it made me smile.

We were surprised 5 years ago with our youngest. I now have twins that will be 17 in Jan and the 5 year old. All boys, it's all good, although hectic in our household.

Oh, and Rhodies are great, we had one for nearly 8 years before she passed.

milkmania
11-08-2012, 06:49 PM
As mentioned some minutes you love them and others you want to pull your hair out.guess you haven't gotten to the time you want to pull THEIR hair out yet 8p


text message from son "can you bring my glove to ballfield"
text message from dad "yeah, I'll be right there"

get to ballfield..... son says "did you bring my cleats too"
"no son, you never said you needed your cleats, I'll be right back"

text message from son "Oh, I need my hat too"

TxsRiverRat
11-08-2012, 07:21 PM
Personally, if I could reverse the clock, I would have never married and never had kids.

Congrats to you and glad youíre having a good time with it, its easy when theyíre little.

bailey78
11-08-2012, 07:37 PM
jstewart,
Our son was also born in WI, (kenosha) I am in the Navy and our son also just recently made his move down here to Hampton,VA!!! The world is to small!!!!!LOL Congrats guys!!!

ccelia
11-09-2012, 09:18 AM
Congrats on the adoption JStewart, I think that is a great thing that you did to give the kid a better life and help out family members in the process.

I am in your area (store both of my boats on the Occoquan River, right by Belmont) so let me know if you need a driver this summer or want a pull from one of my boats. I saw you trailering your boat this summer and it is absolutely gorgeous.

jstewart319
12-10-2012, 04:14 PM
Well after a little over 8 months everything in the adoption is finalized! We received a phone call from our lawyer saying the judge approved the final order, and of all the days for it to happen it was on our 15th wedding anniversary, quite possibly the best anniversary present. Thanks for all the positive responses and look forward to sharing more stories throughout the year.

milkmania
12-10-2012, 08:14 PM
Well after a little over 8 months everything in the adoption is finalized! We received a phone call from our lawyer saying the judge approved the final order, and of all the days for it to happen it was on our 15th wedding anniversary, quite possibly the best anniversary present. Thanks for all the positive responses and look forward to sharing more stories throughout the year.

that's awesome!!!
I was just telling someone today.... If my phone would have had video when my kids were young, I'd have a lot more documented:(

instead, I had to carry around the old VHS Camcorder that looked like it belonged to Channel 8 News:mad:


Take as many pics and videos as you possibly can!!!!! You and your family will appreciate it later:twocents:

trickskier
12-10-2012, 08:53 PM
Great Story - Glad to hear that you and your wife stepped up and kept him in the family!!! Beautiful child congratulations!!! :D